Wisdom

I am the first one to admit that I've made mistakes in my life. There are some that I consider "regrets" and some that I just consider mistakes, things I wish had never done, but things that made me grow in the end. One of the biggest mistakes I've made and I do also consider it a regret, is that I did not date my former husband for long enough before we got married. I didn't know him well enough and we had not spent enough time together. There were so many things we didn't know about each other that we subsequently found out once we were married. I had always heard that marriage is a different ball game than dating, but I didn't realize it fully until I got married. What did I learn from this? I learned that people aren't always telling the truth about themselves. I learned that we are products of our families of origin and nothing can mitigate that. I learned that you have to really know your self before you can know someone else. And I learned that it is very important to seek wise counsel in all major decisions.

Another mistake I made was selling my beloved condo. I adored that place and lived there for four years. I didn't know if I wanted to stay here in Atlanta or not and I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. I knew that if I refinanced I had to stay for 2 years to make the refinancing worth it. I just couldn't commit to that so I sold the condo. I think about it all the time. I now live in a generic apartment that I hate. What I learned from this was that it is imperitive to trust yourself and what you really want. I learned that once you make a committment to something, you must go through with it, no matter how much you want to change your mind. I learned that leaving is not a way to deal with life. I learned that home is where the heart is. I learned that once you've found your "home", you should stick to it and never let it go. I will always love my condo and will always have fond memories of it. But it will forever remind me of the importance of being solid and knowing where your north star is at all times.